Webs and Weaves

I am exhausted from trying to be a good friend, make life work for everyone and cause the least bit of stress and ego deflation as possible for those around me. I have decided that a person just cannot win that one; at sometime, the "dreck" will hit the fan. Why is it that eventually the most high maintenance friends will inevitably drain the dam, and then make it feel like it's all your fault? Just once could it not be all about them? In my efforts to deflect stress and disappointment from an old friend, I just stirred the pot and sit here now tonight without sleep wondering what the hell to do about it. Yes, I attempted to find a solution to a problem that would please everyone and ended up in a total abyss ... even being called a liar by someone who has know me to be truthful my whole life. After jumping to this persons aid so many times, I am baffled. Every time I received a drama filled email or phone call about how I "absolutely need to attend this or that new commercial scheme" or "sign up for a never fail endeavor", or "write a letter to save my job", to find out that it was really not the emergency portrayed but my friend in over-drive again. I feel such disappointment and would prefer to just go back to where all I did was be the friend to someone who could not help how they are wired and not expect any depth or intuition as to my friendship needs. It's just easier to be the friend with no expectations, That way, one is never disappointed, right? Thank God I have a daughter who is the kind of friend who gives as much as she takes with her pals. I hope she is as cherished by them as she is by me.
What a ramble...